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When we talk about or discuss love, many interpretations come on our mind because the concept is a strong name that strikes the emotion of people. It is not the fault of anybody. The reason is that the name LOVE is configured with serious emotion, and it is spiritual that transpired to the mind and thought of opposite sex.

What Resources say about love

The English language, though usually rich and expressive, has only one word for ‘love’. This of course, is ‘love’. This word means:

An intense feeling of deep affection; a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone; a great interest and pleasure in something (Concise Oxford Dictionary)

Here is the difficulty. Firstly, feelings are ephemeral; they come and go depending on our mood (Here today and gone tomorrow). Secondly, if we love something (I love my new dress; I love Coke), it is hardly the lifelong binding commitment the bible talks about.

We can gain deeper insights into the meaning of love by looking at some Greek and Hebrew translations of the word.

There are at least five Hebrew words for love in the Old Testament and two more words that are related.

Ahab: to love, to have affection for (can be sexual), a friend

Dowd: to boil, to love, love token, lover, well beloved

Chashaq: to cling, to join, to love, to delight in, to desire, long for

Racham: to fondle, to love, lo have, compassion (for) to show mercy

Agabah: inordinate (forbidden) love

The other two related words are dabaq and chesed.

Dabaq: to follow hard after, to cling to, to adhere to, to be joined together.

Chesed: usually translated ‘mercy’, its wider meaning is ‘unfailing love, loyal covenant-keeping love, kindness, tenderness, mercy-compassion.

So we have love, affection, friendship, delight, desire, compassion, mercy and tenderness. These are components of any love but married love has the additional blessings of sexual fulfillment and it is protected by covenant.

There are four words for love in the Greek. We will take a look at three of them.

Eros: sexual love

Phileo: companionship and friendship

Agape: self-giving and forgiving love

Erroneous Mind about our life-partner

Most of us start out marriages equipped only with eros (sexual affection) and philieo (human affection). Many of us were convinced that our life-partner was perfect and our love would carry us through any difficulties.

We soon flounder; we become offended, disillusioned and hurt. We retreat, react and raise up barricades. This is when we need to yield ourselves to the radiance and permanence of God’s covenant ‘agape’ love.

‘God so ‘agaped’ the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life (John 3: 16)

What love really means

It has been understood in the bible that love never gives up, love cares more for others than for self, love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love does not strut; does not have a swelled head, does not force itself on others, is not always ‘me first’, love does not fly off the handle, it does not keep a score of the sins of others, does not revel when others grovel, takes pleasure in the truth; puts up with anything, trusts God always and always looks for the best, love never looks back but keeps on going to the end and it never dies.

The New king James puts it like this: ‘love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails.

It is paramount that husbands should love their wives just as Christ loved us and gave Himself for us… So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; He who loves his wife loves himself.

We need Agape love because Agape love is death to self and selfishness. That means dying to our preferences, rights and desires; ‘laying down our lives’ for our marriage partner.

Agape love is costly. Ultimately it cost Jesus His life. Agape love means forgiving the unforgivable. It is to admire and respect one’s spouse with the same love, admiration and respect one gives to God. Agape love trusts and accepts. Agape love never ever fails.

It can believe for the unbelievable, forgive the unforgivable. It can endure to the end. It can withstand every assault and onslaught; it turns duty into delight. It keeps the flame of love forever burning. Agape love keeps marriages powerful; keeps partnership fruitful and effective and what is more, it is FUN!

The problem is that we humans simply do not have such magnificent love. This is divine love. It is God-given love, and if we ask Him, He will give us His agape love.

Marriage is a calling

One day, God gave me this picture that marriage is calling. My very first calling in life is to be like Jesus to my husband. My second calling is to be like Jesus to my children.

He told that in heaven He has an entire RESERVOIR of LOVE for my husband.All I need to do is to surrender myself to God to be a CONDULT through which He, Almighty God, can pour the love He has for my husband.

Easy! God’s yoke is easy and his burden is light! Love is not difficult. It is a gift from God to those who are willing to pay the price and receive it.

Marriage is a calling. It is our first calling. Our life-partner is the most precious gift God gave us. They are our best friend, lover, confidant, prayer partner and the one who is always there for us. The measure we love that person is equal to the measure we love God. (1 John 4: 7-11, 20, 21)

A change of orientation about love

Moreover, love is a command and not an optional extra. It is not a feeling or a reaction. It is AN ACT OF WILL.

A new commandment I gave to you, that you love one another, as I have love you, that you also love one another. By this will all men know that you are My disciples, if you love for one another.;  (John 13:34, 35)

Finally, some fragments from Christ’s last prayer before the cross.

…that they all may be one… that they be one just as We are one that they may be made perfect in one. (John 17:21-23)




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